Talk one on one with student

Why should I do it:

Students are more likely to listen to your input when it’s done away from others
It gives cool down time for both you and the student before discussing an issue
It provides the student a chance to state his thoughts and feelings
 

When should I do it:

When a behavior has caused disruption to the class or the student’s day
 

How do I do it:

This technique takes a lot of patience, support, self-control and self-talk
Keep responses brief; avoid lecturing
Try re-direction if student is able to be de-escalated
Remove student from situation and make an appointment time to talk about the issue
Use reflective listening “I am hearing that you feel this assignment is unnecessary” “I hear you telling me that he took your toy away”
Ask open ended questions
Use body language that represents openness: If you are sitting, keep legs uncrossed and lean toward the person; If you are standing, keep arms uncrossed and legs open---people often mirror their emotional response with others’ body language
Use humor
Validate student’s feelings:
Aggression: “I know that you got mad after that”

Sadness: “ I can see you are sad about this”

Anxiety: “When you tap your feet, I’m guessing you are worried about the test”

Confrontation: “I need to talk to you about your calling your friend a name”

Teach alternatives
“Tell me some things you could have done differently”   “The next time, you get mad, try walking away and taking a break”

“When you get worried about your tests, try to think of all the tests you’ve taken and done great on”

Use Start Commands